Jan. 27, 2025

Setting Expectations - E.338

Setting Expectations - E.338
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Think about the last time expectations shaped your workout routine or health choices. Did you find yourself caught between low-volume training days and the allure of polarizing workouts? We share our insights and personal stories about how these elements play out in today's fitness landscape. Discover how the fitness community's perspective on machine workouts has evolved, and learn about strategies athletes use to push through challenging routines by understanding their capabilities. We highlight some remarkable performances that showcase the power of a strong aerobic base in achieving outstanding results.

On a more serious note, we navigate the intricacies of managing health markers like high ApoB levels and discuss lifestyle changes that can boost cardiovascular health. The discussion expands to personal identity and how societal expectations, often amplified by social media, influence athletes' self-image and authenticity. It’s a reminder of the complex dance between autonomy and societal norms that we all navigate daily.

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Chapters

00:17 - Misfit Podcast Discussion on Modern Expectations

12:19 - Health and Nutrition Choices

28:33 - Navigating Personal Identity and Social Expectations

Transcript
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Good morning Misfits.

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You are tuning into another episode of the Misfit Podcast.

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On today's episode, as promised a few episodes ago, we're going to take a deep dive into an expectation setting exercise.

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We're going to talk about how the modern world has screwed our brains up a little bit.

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That's always a fun rabbit hole to jump down.

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I wish I had a wizard cap on and like a staff, with, like I don't know, like some sort of orb on top of it.

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I think if you just crank your knuckles, you're good to go.

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You'll be fine, yeah, all right, there we go.

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All right, we're good.

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But before we do that we'll go through a little bit of housekeeping here.

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We'll do a little live chat and then we will dive into that topic.

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In terms of housekeeping, just reminding everybody that Misfit Affiliate you can get a two-week free trial on PushPress, sugarwad or StreamFit.

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The folks over at StreamFit were nice enough to create kind of a custom link for us.

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So now if you go to teammisfitcom forward, slash, subscribe and click on StreamFit, it will take you exactly where you need to go to get signed up.

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Um, and that's kind of gym management software and programming all in one, just like push press would be.

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Um, yeah, I think that's.

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I think that's all we got for for housekeeping stuff.

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We are in the we're in the throes of of phase three.

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Um, I got a really good kick out of the complaint of the low volume on that Tuesday that I predicted in the podcast and then they had 10 rep max back squat into the anaerobic like the CrossFit quote, unquote, cube test and they're like I am unwell and it's like, yeah, we got some stuff coming for you.

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We got some stuff coming for you, I promise.

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But it did elicit exactly what I wanted it to.

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I got the DMS that I wanted to get and we put together some, some clips and everything, Um, but it was.

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It was funny to see how polarizing that was, and you're supposed to polarize your training.

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So there's some intention behind all of this wacky shit that we do.

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But I got a good kick out of that.

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And then, sebastian, they can see you correct.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, this is podcast number one where you can see Sebastian.

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So would you say we caused a little bit of a stir with posting Cleo, we got a little bit, that was a big response to that.

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Yeah, yeah, the people were definitely an uproar and they loved it.

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How crazy is that Hunter from back in the day, people would have been like what are you fucking stupid?

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You think I'm going to sit on a machine for 20 to 40 minutes.

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Like the shift in the community has been wild.

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The evolution from you fucking mean I'm going to exercise 21, 15, nine bro.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, watch this.

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I'll do triple Fran before I sit on a bike for more than five minutes at a time.

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Yeah, the evolution of that's a.

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That's come pretty much full circle from.

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I don't do machines to like.

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All right, but only if you let me get off the machine every once in a while and do push-ups or some shit.

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It's like yeah we'll let you do your zone two with a couple of push-ups and then it's.

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Can I do fucking 17 hours of zone two a week?

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completely, skip cross please go to the crossfit games like and, and.

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Now we're uh it's games like and, and now we're uh, it's and now we're programming machine onslaughts and and people love it.

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So yep, yes.

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For anybody that doesn't know 10, 20, 30, 40, 30, 20, 10, echo bite calorie, I think, ski and then row.

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I'd have to go back and look, um, but uh, we've, we've got some some pretty crazy times in there and then it was was cool to see how someone would approach doing better in that workout.

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So like athlete IQ on the wrong side of the spectrum would be like hey, we've got a couple of 10s and 20s in here, I can really stomp the fucking gas pedal.

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This is one thing.

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There is no 10 or 20 or 30.

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The only way that that's a thing is if you're coming back down the mountain and realize that you didn't pace correctly.

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But if you pace properly, there isn't really much modulation to what you're doing.

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Now, those three machines, specifically in the dose that they are, in the combination that it is, you probably really got to know yourself and got to understand the situation.

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So if you fucked that up the first time you did it, I'm I wouldn't be necessarily surprised.

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But we had one athlete that was like 26 minutes, that was 1300 calories per hour on the skier, which is kind of a unique place to be dropping that.

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Um, then we had one athlete sub 25 that held over 400 watts on the echo bike the entire time, which is just like you.

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You got to put your what's the top women's score is that's not a modified that's.

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That's same calories across.

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Yes, it is the same calories.

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Let me look real quick.

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Female benchmark.

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Yeah, let me look real quick.

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Um, so shout out to jesse smith she um tested this workout for me.

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Uh, with chandler.

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Surprise, chandler's the one with the with the sub 25 minute time I didn't think I knew 24.

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Something would be like kind of the top like 10 out of 10 score that kind of thing.

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But I didn't think he could do it without doing the workout first and then prioritizing certain things and going back to it.

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So that was pretty crazy.

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I got a new computer so my texts aren't on here.

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I mean at that level of fitness.

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I'll save you here for a second At that level of the benefit to having such a robust aerobic base.

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Not that Chandler's an aerobic monster exclusively, he's just a monster in general.

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But to have that, the benefit to having that fitness level is that you can accidentally maybe come out too hot or you do.

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You just have the capacity, you have the leeway to see, like, okay, I'm eight minutes into this workout, I see the direction it's going.

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He's also a super intelligent person, so he's kind of probably doing that, whether it's actual math or just kind of the, the internal check-in on the fly.

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But, it's like he has that fitness level where if he does go too fast he can reel it in and he's not going to be, he hasn't dug himself a hole, or he can learn that like, hey, a few minutes into this I actually feel pretty good, I know what my capacity is and I can speed up.

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So, um, it helps to be intelligent, it helps a lot more to be super fit, and when you've got both of those things that's a real fucking deadly combination and it's a huge reason why someone like that performs really well in competition.

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To have that kind of mental aptitude and kind of self-awareness to make that those changes on the fly is not something that a ton of CrossFitters have, at least not at the either aspiring competitive level or even, in some instances, at the top level.

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Sometimes you wonder how somebody with the level of fitness and the seemingly opposite level of intelligence makes it to the highest level.

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But right yeah, being real fit helps it does.

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Yeah, jesse was 3406 and um, kenzie said she was about 90 seconds behind her.

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Um, that's right, but kenzie has asked for a programming sheet this year in january instead of the day before the games.

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So we're we're making some fucking moves here, we're making some fucking moves here, still looking for socks, but it's in january.

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What's that?

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Yeah, looking for socks just in january, not at the competition hall.

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Um, so yeah, that's just.

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Uh, that's the kind of thing that like makes me happy when the community has that kind of shift, because it's definitely something where, even within our own organization, I no one agreed with me back in the day of what was missing from the programming, um, and so that meant I had to go try to sell it to my remote clients as, like, the people in your text group aren't going to be doing this.

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You're going to be doing this.

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You need a fucking special heart rate monitor device.

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Imagine that back in the day and it's just like, this is so dumb.

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I'm going zero miles an hour, like what the fuck is happening.

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So, to go from that to present day, where we're at right now and obviously we get the over correcting bug, which happens a little bit, but so many, so many crossfitters are aerobically challenged, um, so even over correcting for some athletes probably has some some silver lining in it.

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Uh, life chat what do we got?

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Seb, are you gonna jump in on life chat?

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yeah, I think that's the only thing I can.

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I can probably uh give any input in in this chat, but, um, yeah, so headed to, headed to guadal waterpalooza tomorrow.

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Um, just excited.

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I'd never been there before, uh, you know all these years working in the crossfit space.

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So, uh, I know it's a little bit of, uh, it's a hodgepodge of people, but I'm excited to see what the rave's all about, especially because the socal event that I was at in September was pretty well run.

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So I'm hoping that, with this new venue, um, it's also like helpful for media folk to to get good stuff out there.

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Yeah, I can't speak to the new venue.

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I've been to Wadapalooza I don't even know 10 times, maybe something to that effect, and it's the best community event like hands down by far.

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There's nothing that even compares to it.

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But Miami beach and Miami proper are two different places.

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So I'm intrigued, I think honestly more by the like dumb shit like parking and where do the spectators stand and where are they sending people for X, y and Z?

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But like, as someone like I would never want to live in Miami, but like being from Maine and popping down to Miami most Januaries is not bad.

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Right, like, like.

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So I think you're, I think you're going to enjoy it.

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I think you're going to be impressed just by like we joke a lot with Wadapalooza.

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You're going to be impressed just by like we joke a lot with Guadalupe Luzo.

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We're in the back and they're like okay, heat number 6,012, 14 year old boys with freckles on their left butt, cheek division sub 12A.

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Like the logistics of what they pull off there is so crazy Like it is just nonstop, and then at the end you just tip your cap to the volunteers, the fucking people who showed up there to wrangle athletes from sun up to pat, way past sundown.

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Every single day is wild.

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So I think you're, I think you're going to, I think you're going to be impressed by, um, how they do it, and I'm intrigued to to hear how it goes on the beach.

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Yeah, how they do it and I'm intrigued to to hear how it goes on the beach.

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Yeah, definitely excited and also, uh, just I know the food down in miami is awesome, so I'm definitely looking to get some sweet plantains and some white and white rice and black beans, for sure oh you gotta yeah, the food down there's good.

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Yeah, we got it.

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We got a spot for you we got a couple of spots for you.

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Yep, what you got, hunter.

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That place is the tits.

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Oh man, I got a hell of a weekend with Jasmine, my 12-year-old black beauty.

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That's my car, by the way.

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Yes, that is the one oh my Clip it.

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Wow, holy shit.

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Um, yeah, she's fine.

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Blackmail material she's fine.

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Yeah, go ahead, fight me.

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She's never let me down.

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She's been cross country up and down the east coast a bunch of times.

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Um, yeah, this is too too long and too ridiculous of a story for the podcast.

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But I will say I'm not a car guy.

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But new achievement unlocked is I buffed my headlights so you get that film.

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That's super terrible.

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You went from zero to one, bro.

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You are still not close to a ten.

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Yeah, hey, it starts with one.

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All right guys, it starts with one.

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I'm not fucking popping the hood, fucking around with some sort of belt that I don't know what, what, what the fuck is attached to it.

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But uh, yeah, it was, uh, it was quite the weekend of of headlight out, uh, tire ran over, something popped the tire, uh.

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But the highlight was that I now know how to completely buff and restore my, my headlights.

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And, man, I'm a, I'm a new fucking driver out there in the dark I can see shit past like 14 feet in front of my, my bumper.

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So it's a real treat, it's a big return on investment.

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Big, big ROI.

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Yeah, my, the headlights were so like yellow Basically, like what happens is the UV is like the first thing that um like deteriorates them and it like literally will make the headlight yellow um and so like you're like wet basically wet sanding the plastic headlight and like just a film of disgusting yellow it looks.

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It's like the color of pus, almost is like coming off the headlight and then you just kind of just continue to sand it.

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But you're literally just wet sanding the plastic headlight and polishing them I can't add none.

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I can't add anything to my list.

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I'm fucking tapped out.

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That's just overwhelming the amount of shit that I'm supposed to fucking know and take care of.

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I'm not sanding my headlights, I'm gonna let it ride.

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Yeah, I can't do it.

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Well, yeah, to be to be fair I already had the items necessary for it and I was like, when I brought it in to get the headlight replaced, I asked at the same time I was like hey, like can you guys fix this?

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And he's just like, yeah, it's 80 bucks.

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And I'm like, no, no, it's not.

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Yeah, seriously watch this.

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So, uh, yeah yeah, I get it.

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The first time I changed my changed my battery.

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I actually honestly think I talked about it on the podcast changed my battery a couple years ago and I was just like I'm the smartest man alive.

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This is fantastic, yeah I've managed that a couple of times.

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That's, that's pretty straightforward, but that's, yeah, that's probably the extent of my uh, my vehicular knowledge fair.

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Um, I actually thought about doing a podcast on this, but it feels like I say first and foremost, like competitive crossfit podcast.

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Of course we talk a lot about the affiliate side of things.

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We'll go into um topics like this, but it's more for performance.

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So I got um blood testing done and one of my markers for heart disease is like through the fucking roof, like off the charts like the what did you use what?

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Uh inside tracker.

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Is that what james did?

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no, no, he showed me the interface for that.

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So so basically, I'm now like luckily I'm armed with the knowledge to know what, outside of like a pharmaceutical intervention, would need to take place.

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But it's interesting because I think the reference range for high is maybe like 110 to 130, and I'm outside of the high reference range.

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My dot is off the chart, so it's one of those things.

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No, it's ApoB.

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ApoB.

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So it's basically a protein that transports LDL and sort of is along the ride for the breakdown of LDL to the relationship between, like blood sugar, gut biome, triglycerides, transport of fatty acids, um, you know, things becoming oxidized, things of that nature, and I definitely know.

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So, like like the only panel all the way down, they sort of they put it into categories and the only panel that had anything that they were concerned with was cardiovascular, um, and it's like what is the?

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What's the root word there?

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Right, yeah, like cardio, um, and I'm still going to strict press, kid how often I'm exercising, what my exercise is into consideration, and it's like I bet, with a little bit more adherence there and literally, like putting it into my schedule, I can knock that down 20 or 30 points through, like what we know how to do about heart health, that kind of thing, and then from there so that's kind of the top line thing you just reduce so many risk factors by getting your VO2 max up, so luckily, I literally like that's my profession.

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Did they measure that?

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Were they able to measure that as well?

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No, you can't.

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You can't measure.

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Vo2 max without, yeah, yeah, so we'll get to work on that.

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There are supplements that help that.

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If people are interested on this topic, I can go down a little bit more of that rabbit hole, um.

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And then, honestly, the the like whole world of, of course, like, if we're talking about gut health and blood sugar, refined carbohydrates are not like my best friend, right, um.

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But then there's the like.

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People are about to be triggered about me saying anything about saturated fat, right, so, like, like I've been the amount of iterations of what's right and what's wrong relative to this topic in my life.

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It's like my head could spin off, um, but I do know that I have familial like super high cholesterol.

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And then I remember, back in the day there was this service that K-Star recommended where you basically put your raw data from 23andMe in and it will tell you, like, because you hear a lot about like, why is this diet work for people in this part of the world and not people from this part of the world?

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And, of course, we evolved over a long period of time in different conditions.

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You sort of adapt and I don't do as well with saturated fat, like.

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I remember my LDL when I was drinking the butter coffee, and it wasn't great.

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The fucking heart was pumping sludge.

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Yeah, so for me I don't know as much that it's the absence of saturated fat as it is the presence of olive oil, avocado, like things of that nature, things that we know go in and actually help this situation on a like like biological level, like in real time, that sort of thing um so I'm exploring the world of lower saturated fat protein options and then dousing them with olive oil, basically.

00:19:54.171 --> 00:19:59.722
But your boys, I'm struggling like a little bit like what are you?

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are you doing like?

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Like plant-based proteins?

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No, no, but I made ground turkey, and it's just not good.

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Oh man, you gotta do chili.

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I did.

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It's fine, I ate it.

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It's not beef Like.

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I think one thing that I know that I love is smoked turkey breast like from a barbecue joint.

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How hard would it be for me to get turkey breast and put it on the fucking Traeger right, like that kind of thing.

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So I'm going to do that.

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I need to start eating more seafood things of that nature.

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So I've got the things that I need to do related to it and I'm going to do a little bit of like a kind of quarter, like a 90 day thing, just to see if I can get numbers trending in the right direction, because there are also like partial, like it's not actually pharmaceutical, but there's like people use red yeast rice I don't know if you've heard of that in place of statins and it does something very similar.

00:21:05.901 --> 00:21:12.582
Um, so just trying to see how long I can go down that and move the needle in the direction that I want to.

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Um, and it's weird, I definitely feel different about getting that blood test as a father than I did prior.

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To.

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That like just the motivation to like get your shit together now so that you're not fucking like driving me to my heart doctor appointment when you're 16 years old, like that kind of thing.

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I think, uh, I think it's Brazil nuts that have are significant.

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I or I know it's Brazil nuts, but I think it's on cholesterol.

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I was reading in the in a book, um, in a book uh, what is it?

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Fucking called uh, how, oh, how, not to die um it's a book recommended by it's.

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It's it's got a it's kind of skewed towards a plant-based diet, uh, which I'm like still finding interesting and like open to new information.

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It's so weird how like you can you could literally type in either into youtube or just the fucking general internet and find like, uh, like two or three very reputable, reputable professionals with legitimate credentials who say, like this is the diet, it's like carnivore, it's like this is the one that's gonna save you dogmatic dude.

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That's just how it is.

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It's plants, like there's actually some carcinogens in plants and like they're not as good for you as you think.

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And then there's another book that's dedicated to like everything that's wrong with humanity is because we're eating animal protein and animal meat and stuff like that.

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It's just fucking wild.

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But anyway, I think, uh, yeah, the study was wild.

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It was like literally like one to four brazil nuts a month or something like that had this wonder if I can eat those massive lasting yeah I don't know lasting impact on on cholesterol.

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Um, I think it was cholesterol, but yeah, the man, that's an interesting rabbit hole.

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I should honestly do that because I've got a few every year.

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I get my blood markers, like I have what I would guess is like for someone who runs like a 540 mile and deadlifts 500 pounds and and can run for yeah you know, an hour plus on end like you'd think that blood markers would be a little bit better yeah um, and then there's other things like I'm very curious to know, like if we'll learn in the future what kind of uh impact like cortisol and just general stress levels have on blood markers it did tell me I was stressed, but I didn't fucking need a blood test for that shit I got.

00:23:39.784 --> 00:23:44.391
I got 74 businesses and a fucking two-year-old kiss my ass.

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Am I paying you for that information, or what?

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oh shit, um yeah, the.

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I think it's interesting because the the apo b1 is.

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I said I wasn't going to keep going on this topic, but maybe I will just a little um, it's an interesting one because they can't really figure out why we need it.

00:24:11.807 --> 00:24:25.635
Like, the lower you get it, the like less possible at all it is for you to have, um, like heart disease, yeah, for you to end up having something like that happen.

00:24:25.635 --> 00:24:32.171
So there, you know, a lot of times you're trying to get the number down, say, until like sub 100, 70 to 90.

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But then there are these like longevity people who are like trying to drive it all the way down into the ground and they can't find any, essentially any negative effects associated with it.

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Um, but yeah, effects associated with it.

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But yeah, I think anyone who can afford to do, I'd say, if you're a super healthy human being, every six months is probably a good call just to make these little nudges in lifestyle and behavior.

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And then for me, until I make significant changes related to this, I'll probably go quarterly and just you know I'll.

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I'll let you guys know how all that's going.

00:25:09.680 --> 00:25:10.362
Would you say the?

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Would you say it was again the, the service.

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Inside tracker so you can buy like.

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I buy like the.

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It's not surprising, meathead.

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You hit me with the test retest package.

00:25:22.669 --> 00:25:24.627
I'm like okay, I'm in.

00:25:24.627 --> 00:25:28.383
All right, set the the baseline, get to work, find out what the difference is.

00:25:29.425 --> 00:25:40.346
Um, there are a bunch of different services, though, and I think you would use different ones based on what you were trying to get out of it, like if you felt like you knew what to do when you got the information.

00:25:40.346 --> 00:25:42.352
I think inside tracker is great.

00:25:42.352 --> 00:25:51.672
There are other ones that are more full service, that are like specifically take this many milligrams of this thing and try to do like.

00:25:51.672 --> 00:25:54.423
Inside tracker does that, but not to the same extent.

00:25:54.423 --> 00:25:59.781
And then other ones are actually linked to like the more plates, more dates.

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Guy has his own blood work stuff that is linked to if you're going to do like hormone replacement therapy or peptides or supplements or anything like that.

00:26:08.924 --> 00:26:16.599
So, yeah, that's my life chat, that's where I'm at.

00:26:18.602 --> 00:26:47.820
Okay, so we had the sort of random things episode a few episodes ago, and one of the things that I had in there just based on it being in the vicinity of New Year's was this idea of an expectation setting exercise the.

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I'm not a no one that does this podcast.

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Um, none of the three of us are competitive CrossFitters and I think this is a very powerful um concept for basically everybody, but it was born out of the competitive CrossFitter um and the challenges that they face.

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I think it's very easy to explain in relation to that, so we're going to use that as our example, but I will also interject with the way that I would think about this from a personal standpoint, and obviously, hunter, you know, feel free to do so as well.

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So I think the primer for this that's really helpful, that really sets the tone here, is the idea that we've opted into so many of us have opted into this social contract basically, where we are okay with going and finding out who we're supposed to be from other people and, like the modern world has primed us to look out at everything that's going on, especially at our screens, and say who am I supposed to be, what am I supposed to do, how am I supposed to act?

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This is the standard that's being set out there.

00:28:00.545 --> 00:28:18.756
Okay, now I need to achieve that standard and if it doesn't scare you that you are not looking inward to figure out who you're supposed to be as a human being, then something's kind of broken here.

00:28:18.776 --> 00:28:28.069
But the primer to me is like when we get stuck, when athletes get stuck really wrapped around the axle with these expectations, they come from elsewhere.

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They don't come from the athlete, right, and I think that that's a huge issue.

00:28:32.973 --> 00:28:45.564
So when I think of, from the athlete perspective, gazing out to come up with your expectations, your personal identity, all of that stuff, we start to get into looking at what that could be.

00:28:45.564 --> 00:28:50.448
So it's like aesthetics what is my body composition supposed to be?

00:28:50.448 --> 00:28:55.260
I'm going to go see the person that has the most Instagram followers.

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That is sort of somewhat close to me as a competitor or something like that Oftentimes nowhere near as good as you as an athlete or as hardworking, et cetera, but they look a certain way and they get a certain amount of attention for it.

00:29:09.092 --> 00:29:09.936
Therefore, I struggle to eat for performance because I need to look a certain way.

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They get a certain amount of attention for it.

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Therefore, I struggle to eat for performance because I need to look a certain way, and that gets extended out into crazy places like clothing, fucking shoes, grips, headbands, sports bras, like what socks are the cool people?

00:29:27.811 --> 00:29:28.413
You know what I mean.

00:29:28.413 --> 00:29:29.496
And if we just like.

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This is like such a rabbit hole that you can fall down into, where you're curating all of this stuff again about yourself without even figuring out, like do I like this?

00:29:40.176 --> 00:29:42.181
Is this something that I want?

00:29:42.181 --> 00:29:52.528
Does this fit with where I'm trying to go to like go ahead, hunter uh, no, I was just gonna tackle uh tag on a little bit.

00:29:52.748 --> 00:29:53.128
I it's.

00:29:53.128 --> 00:30:05.699
It's really interesting, because I've listened to a lot of this topic uh, at least the idea of kind of like who you are in relation to the rest of the world.

00:30:05.699 --> 00:30:38.994
Uh, because, specifically like the uh we don't I don't want to go into like political stuff here, but the like combination of like the identity politics that have been just kind of like rampant in the country over the last five to ten years, um, a lot of the like actual identity of of people who are, you know, the, the whole transgender thing is created, a lot of conversation about like identity and what it is, and one of the things that I've I've read and learned and that makes sense is like your identity is.

00:30:38.994 --> 00:30:45.233
There's kind of, on the one extreme, it's like my identity is whatever I say, it is and it's like okay.

00:30:45.233 --> 00:30:55.442
So there's there's credence in that in the sense that you there, there is the individual autonomy that goes along with kind of like how you carry yourself in your day-to-day life.

00:30:55.442 --> 00:31:08.886
But there's also a line at which that you are attempting to like you, there is a social contract that you have between yourself and the rest of the world right and the rest of the world right.

00:31:09.190 --> 00:31:17.055
So if I'm a CrossFit coach and I go stand up in front of the whiteboard and I start meowing like a cat, there's people are going to be like what the fuck is happening?

00:31:17.055 --> 00:31:25.057
Right, and like, in today's day and age, maybe like certain parts of the country, it's like no, I identify as a cat today and, again, try not to get too political here.

00:31:25.057 --> 00:31:31.070
But there's some people who might be like here.

00:31:31.070 --> 00:31:34.001
But there's some people who might be like, oh, like I get it, like you are whatever you want to be.

00:31:34.001 --> 00:31:39.135
And then, on the other end, it's like no, like I came to the CrossFit gym, you're, you're, you're, you're, coach Hunter for this next hour.

00:31:39.135 --> 00:31:48.673
Your identity and the agreed upon identity that you and I have is coach Hunter and there's a reciprocal kind of agreement that occurs there.

00:31:48.752 --> 00:31:55.336
So, like, on the one end, it's important that we have, like, our social circles to help keep us in check.

00:31:55.336 --> 00:32:06.803
Right, because, like, if I start acting like a complete asshole, hopefully I have good friends who say like hey, man, like we of the just like the fact that previously we might compare ourselves to celebrities that get shown on the news or on television.

00:32:06.803 --> 00:32:31.465
But now with Instagram, with everybody having kind of their own media channel, I can now compare myself to somebody who is much more closely like in, whose life is a little bit more similar to mine, right?

00:32:31.465 --> 00:32:40.950
So I can find somebody on Instagram who's a CrossFit coach and maybe they're a little bit more successful than me and they have a following and it's like, oh wow, I can actually relate more to that person.

00:32:40.950 --> 00:33:23.410
Now I should be following in that person's footsteps and it's like that, that kind of intermediary, um, like the, the buffer that social media has created has almost bridged that gap a little bit to the place where, like everybody is you know, managing their expectations based on somebody else or something else or some other expectation, rather than, like you know, on the one end, you're not exclusively who you say you are 100% of the time, but you're also we should not be chasing what somebody else is or has or you know, in an effort to become someone else, that that isn't in line with you know, your personal goals and expectations.

00:33:24.070 --> 00:33:37.884
And in this case, like topic, like capabilities, right, it's not realistic for me to say like I'm gonna train and go to the crossfit games like the, without, without a massive overhaul of my life.

00:33:37.884 --> 00:34:10.503
Right, and that expectation management, um, is where people tend to get lost because they can just look in their phone and see, like I can see 300 other people who are living the life that I allegedly want to live, like that's my new expectation and it might not work out to be the case I feel like I was the last, my generation was the last generation to like you have your preschool bubble and it's only like eight kids that you remember exist.

00:34:11.365 --> 00:34:17.706
And then you go to school and it's a little bit more and like your perspective can change.

00:34:17.706 --> 00:34:25.452
You're shown different ways of how people act and all of this different stuff and it continues to just like in a very linear way.

00:34:25.452 --> 00:34:26.695
You get you.

00:34:26.695 --> 00:34:27.998
College is the crazy one.

00:34:27.998 --> 00:34:38.806
You go there and you're in a different place with all these different people and like that's how I like made my way through the world.

00:34:38.806 --> 00:34:56.583
If there was someone, let's say, like involved with sports that I was really trying to aspire to, like chase or be, they were probably right in front of my face and not making up a narrative about who they are or what they are or what they do.

00:34:56.824 --> 00:35:08.217
They were literally right in front of me, like the kid who was just money from anywhere on the court had one of those crazy dads that made him shoot like 10,000 shots in his driveway a day.

00:35:08.217 --> 00:35:15.637
I knew that that was a thing, right, like that sort of deal, and you had all of these examples.

00:35:15.637 --> 00:35:30.159
But you, for a lot of instances, got to see in real time what they were, and if you were willing to pay a similar price to that person to be them as opposed to snap my fingers, why am I not them?

00:35:30.159 --> 00:35:31.181
I want to be them.

00:35:31.909 --> 00:35:34.094
Yeah, what you said is the difference maker.

00:35:34.155 --> 00:36:04.210
It's that in that sphere and this is a kind of before, at least early on, before texting and the social media side, it's exactly what you said and that's those people were in your immediate vicinity and you saw both like, potentially, the hard work that went into that person making it to where they were, but also the repercussions and the negative implications of that person maybe acting like a jackass.

00:36:04.230 --> 00:36:05.773
When it's social media, it's only the highlight reel, it's just the positives.

00:36:05.773 --> 00:36:09.757
You know on social, when it's social media, it's only the highlight reel, it's just the positives.

00:36:09.757 --> 00:36:23.592
It's maybe, maybe it's some of the work that takes to, that it takes to get there, but it's like it's all just that silver lining, without any of the negatives or any of the ups and downs that you might see.

00:36:23.592 --> 00:36:33.445
If you are, you know if you put the phone away and you are, you only exist within the bubble, that is, you know your immediate, in real time, in real face-to-face with people.

00:36:33.445 --> 00:36:43.094
That's a hell of a lot different than the 15-second clip of so-and-so snatching 225 for 15 reps.

00:36:43.094 --> 00:36:46.559
It's like holy shit, I got to get there now.

00:36:47.871 --> 00:37:01.121
And the world of comparison is weird because, just like, let's say, you get a hundred comments on an Instagram post and 99 of them are nice, your brain zeros in on the single person that's being a dick.

00:37:01.121 --> 00:37:12.056
Comparison is the exact same way you see someone on social media running at the pace that you run, or lifting the weight that you lift, or doing whatever, keep scrolling.

00:37:12.056 --> 00:37:12.818
It's fine.

00:37:12.818 --> 00:37:20.085
When you see someone that you're going to need to compete against, like the old one was always muscle-ups, it was always muscle-ups.

00:37:20.447 --> 00:37:43.094
It was like I'm going to post my max set of muscle-ups or I'm going to post myself doing muscle-ups two or three days a week, and we're going into the regionals workouts one year and they pitch you with a fucking 21, 15, 9 of muscle ups and two women china, cho, mckenzie riley they're like fuck, do I have to go unbroken?

00:37:43.094 --> 00:37:48.373
And it's like these are the opposite of what we talked about at the beginning of the podcast.

00:37:48.373 --> 00:37:51.201
These are are aerobic monsters, right yeah?

00:37:51.201 --> 00:37:59.030
And like their feet touch the ground, coming off the rings, and it's like lava Mechanical rest periods it's like, yeah, it's, the floor is lava.

00:37:59.873 --> 00:38:19.413
I feel terrible about coming down, like I'm going right back up, and then the other end of the fucking rig is that I can still picture it, that exact athlete who has the narrative that, like great sponsors, like and again separate thing, like good for you, like make your fucking money, like go get it.

00:38:19.413 --> 00:38:25.534
Like if you can find a way to be a professional athlete in this sport, that's fucking incredible congratulations.

00:38:25.534 --> 00:38:33.996
But whatever, 17 muscle-ups to start that workout they look pretty good too, or maybe they have that really high catch.

00:38:34.751 --> 00:38:35.934
You know they don't do a ring dip.

00:38:35.934 --> 00:38:39.155
Sexy yeah, they came in last in the heat.

00:38:39.155 --> 00:38:41.512
Oh fuck, so like.

00:38:41.532 --> 00:38:58.365
I don't know if that's athlete IQ or whatever it is, but again we latch onto these things, the grass is always greener on the other side and like in reality, we have this situation that's just like come on, all of you played Madden, right?

00:38:58.365 --> 00:39:04.693
I know that everyone didn't, but everyone played Madden.

00:39:04.693 --> 00:39:11.016
That's listening to this podcast and you have like 10 things that tell whether your creative player is going to be good or whether this other person's good.

00:39:11.016 --> 00:39:15.422
So you get your overall rating, but then it's broken down into strength and stamina and speed.

00:39:15.422 --> 00:39:22.063
Those sliders that move around are not going to be similar to that athlete.

00:39:22.063 --> 00:39:25.280
They're not going to be similar at all.

00:39:25.280 --> 00:39:27.588
You are a totally different human being.

00:39:27.688 --> 00:39:32.061
And that brings me down to the next bullet point that I have, which is actions.

00:39:32.061 --> 00:39:41.119
Like you see their programming and they're better than you at a single thing, which might have been a strength to begin with, even before they started CrossFit.

00:39:41.119 --> 00:39:44.320
And it's like why am I not doing that thing?

00:39:44.320 --> 00:39:46.014
Why am I not doing that?

00:39:46.014 --> 00:39:51.123
And it's like man who even knows the reality of this situation.

00:39:51.123 --> 00:39:59.195
So you see their programming, you see their mobility, you see their recovery protocols and it's like I need to be doing that.

00:40:00.016 --> 00:40:08.054
And being a C-level CrossFit celebrity, you get to fucking peek behind the curtain.

00:40:08.054 --> 00:40:12.110
And how the sausage is made is not that pretty.

00:40:12.110 --> 00:40:26.072
Your marketing budget for your fucking sodium tablets or hot chocolate that makes you pass out or whatever the fuck has nothing to do with whether, from a scientific standpoint, it actually works.

00:40:26.072 --> 00:40:31.693
If something's being marketed to you by an athlete and it's, they're doing a really good job.

00:40:31.693 --> 00:40:46.652
That means that they have a good marketing director, and a bunch of money has nothing to do with like get yourself a membership at examinecom and look at the literature laid out right in front of you about what supplements actually work don't even fucking look at any of that stuff.

00:40:46.873 --> 00:40:48.657
Drew's that would be.

00:40:48.657 --> 00:40:53.177
It would be you assuming that drew's life chat indicated that you need to lower your apo b.

00:40:53.177 --> 00:40:55.682
It's like correct what like yeah, do you know?

00:40:55.891 --> 00:40:56.835
it's not actually that's.

00:40:56.835 --> 00:40:58.184
You don't even know what that is, you heard it.

00:40:58.184 --> 00:40:58.907
You heard a 15 set.

00:40:58.907 --> 00:41:00.034
You don't even know what it is, do you?

00:41:00.135 --> 00:41:03.431
yeah, you just, you just know it's supposed to be low and that probably means you got to lower it.

00:41:03.431 --> 00:41:10.724
But without the context, without the like, the actual information that applies directly to you, that's useless.

00:41:11.530 --> 00:41:13.617
Top 10 CrossFit Games.

00:41:13.617 --> 00:41:21.697
Athletes that get paid to say they follow a program have explicitly told me that they do not follow it in the past.

00:41:21.697 --> 00:41:23.815
Okay, this is not a present thing.

00:41:23.815 --> 00:41:27.737
I'm not going to be fucking naming names or companies or anything like that.

00:41:27.737 --> 00:41:44.152
I'm only saying this to say, when you see, should I be using, you know, should I be using ready state or pliability or any of these companies, what is going to help you do what you need to do when you're looking for a program, what is going to help you?

00:41:44.152 --> 00:41:49.632
Like, trying to filter through not being sold on these things is incredible.

00:41:49.632 --> 00:41:54.063
So to me, that's that second layer where I'm trying to use a scare tactic.

00:41:54.063 --> 00:42:06.240
If it doesn't freak you out that you're asking other people that you don't know how you're supposed to be and act and what you're supposed to achieve, consider that there's a really good chance that that isn't a fake.

00:42:06.240 --> 00:42:18.360
So now, not only are you asking someone else how you're supposed to act and who you're supposed to be, they're telling it's a fiction, it's a made up character used to sell X, y and Z.

00:42:18.360 --> 00:42:20.202
Be okay with that.

00:42:20.202 --> 00:42:38.373
Like again, we're using the, we're using the examples of the, of the CrossFitter, because this is like as a remote coach, as athletes make their way up the rungs of the ladder that they want to get to.

00:42:38.373 --> 00:42:39.398
They're going to run into this.

00:42:39.398 --> 00:42:43.581
They're going to deal with this um in in some form or another.

00:42:43.581 --> 00:42:48.420
So now we talk about the actual exercise.

00:42:48.420 --> 00:42:54.552
Who do you want to be and who do you trust enough to hold you to that standard?

00:42:54.552 --> 00:42:59.592
How do you set expectations for yourself as an athlete or as a human being?

00:42:59.592 --> 00:43:04.445
Step one is to set the actual expectations and actions.

00:43:04.445 --> 00:43:11.262
List out the attributes that you want to embody and the actions you need to take in order to do so.

00:43:13.431 --> 00:43:16.701
Like when I think about you, think about your daily life.

00:43:16.701 --> 00:43:22.663
Let's throw out the CrossFit competition that happens every once in a while.

00:43:22.663 --> 00:43:24.918
Think about your day to day.

00:43:24.918 --> 00:43:27.498
What happens on weekdays and on weekends?

00:43:27.498 --> 00:43:28.958
You get up in the morning.

00:43:28.958 --> 00:43:29.260
What happens?

00:43:29.260 --> 00:43:29.561
What do you do?

00:43:29.561 --> 00:43:30.206
Are you get up in the morning?

00:43:30.206 --> 00:43:30.547
What happens?

00:43:30.547 --> 00:43:30.809
What do you?

00:43:30.809 --> 00:43:32.335
Do you make a breakfast?

00:43:32.335 --> 00:43:33.795
Are you taking care of your kid?

00:43:33.795 --> 00:43:35.014
Are you spending time alone?

00:43:35.014 --> 00:43:36.018
Are you with other people?

00:43:36.018 --> 00:43:38.336
You go to your job.

00:43:38.336 --> 00:43:39.775
You interact with other people.

00:43:39.775 --> 00:43:40.538
You have to work.

00:43:40.538 --> 00:43:42.454
You go to the CrossFit gym.

00:43:42.454 --> 00:43:50.896
Maybe you're a coach, maybe you're the open gym member that everyone's scared of because you don't talk to them like that kind of thing.

00:43:50.896 --> 00:43:53.338
How do you interact with those people?

00:43:53.338 --> 00:43:54.960
How do you accept coaching?

00:43:54.960 --> 00:44:03.213
When you go to read your programming, is it all the high highs and low, lows, or is it just like I'm going to get to work?

00:44:03.213 --> 00:44:04.960
I'm going to go in and put the work in on these things.

00:44:05.951 --> 00:44:15.561
Figure out in your day-to-day life who you're trying to be as a person and then think about what you would need to do to actually make something like that happen.

00:44:15.561 --> 00:44:28.532
And my personal example here is something that comes from kind of the world of stoicism a little bit, and it sort of means the opposite of what the question entails.

00:44:28.532 --> 00:44:35.878
Do you want to be a good man or a great man, is the question, and the idea of it is.

00:44:35.878 --> 00:44:49.586
Society has told me that a great man is do anything possible to get as many people to subscribe to Misfit Athletics, no matter what the cost is.

00:44:49.586 --> 00:44:50.807
That's a great man.

00:44:50.927 --> 00:44:54.639
I have more Instagram followers, I have more money, I have more status.

00:44:54.639 --> 00:45:01.376
I have chosen what other people would decide would make me personally successful.

00:45:01.376 --> 00:45:02.840
So that's a great man.

00:45:02.840 --> 00:45:03.563
Quote, unquote.

00:45:03.563 --> 00:45:07.456
And then a good man is how do I interact with my child?

00:45:07.456 --> 00:45:09.119
How do I interact with my wife?

00:45:09.119 --> 00:45:40.809
Can I prioritize who I am and the way that I'm acting over what society has deemed success for somebody like me personally and I'm not saying that it's like not an ongoing battle, like you're going to deal with getting pulled back in different directions, but really taking the time to say this is my priority, um is a pretty powerful exercise because then, especially if you say it to somebody else, you can be put on the spot pretty quickly.

00:45:41.231 --> 00:45:52.072
Like I'm going to make this call this time and it's like you said that this was your priority and it's like, yeah, just this is just like a one-off situation kind of a thing, and that can become a slippery slope.

00:45:52.072 --> 00:46:01.490
So really think about the normal day-to-day Like what do I do every single day?

00:46:01.490 --> 00:46:02.735
What are my interactions?

00:46:02.735 --> 00:46:03.938
What is important to me?

00:46:03.938 --> 00:46:05.842
How am I going to treat my body?

00:46:05.842 --> 00:46:07.313
How am I going to treat other people?

00:46:07.313 --> 00:46:09.440
How am I going to recover, whatever it is?

00:46:15.489 --> 00:46:17.753
those are the expectations that you need to set and think about how to actually act on them.

00:46:17.753 --> 00:46:20.898
Where do you put them in relation to kind of reality?

00:46:20.898 --> 00:46:32.657
So, as far as, like you know, it's one thing to set expectations, it's another for those expectations to be realistic and executable and is that?

00:46:32.657 --> 00:46:41.061
Yeah, I'm also honestly just opening the notes that you shared with me, like eight seconds before the podcast, to make sure I'm not missing anything no, I mean it's um.

00:46:41.342 --> 00:46:59.483
That's one of the reasons why I talk about it from a like I wake up, I like my expectation is that I'm going to remember to take my fucking greens, creatine, electrolytes and collagen in the morning, like start off with water before coffee.

00:46:59.483 --> 00:47:14.061
I'm going to be like, even though I know that I have like a mountain of work waiting for me, I'm going to be present with my kid and pretend like that doesn't even exist until my wife shows up and we kind of trade like that sort of thing.

00:47:14.503 --> 00:47:19.338
I think going through what you actually do.

00:47:20.079 --> 00:47:38.998
So, like I, you know I go to the you know competitive CrossFit athlete that that rhythm is very different on a day-to-day basis, but you could I mean they're so regimented that they could write their day down quickly and think about what they're trying, who they're trying to be and what they're trying to embody in those moments.

00:47:40.652 --> 00:47:54.838
And one of the things I think that could be really powerful is training could be absurdly stressful if my expectation is to be another human, because you're always questioning in the moment am I living up to this?

00:47:54.838 --> 00:47:56.862
Have I become that Versus?

00:47:56.862 --> 00:48:10.574
Like I'm going to like put my head down and work, like I am committing to every single time that I step in the gym I'm going to warm up properly, I'm going to take care of my body and I'm going to zero in on this individual conditioning piece, whatever it is.

00:48:10.574 --> 00:48:11.396
Um.

00:48:11.396 --> 00:48:27.775
So I feel like the unrealistic expectations come from again cooking up this other scenario like this isn't my life right now and like we talked about the perfectionism thing on the, the episode near that time and that that's what happens.

00:48:28.215 --> 00:48:35.644
That's the exact moment where the person says I don't currently do any of these 72 things 72.

00:48:35.644 --> 00:48:37.693
Let's go, here's my new set of expectations.

00:48:37.693 --> 00:48:39.358
Like, yeah, good luck there.

00:48:40.021 --> 00:48:40.443
I'm going to.

00:48:40.443 --> 00:48:43.072
I'll take this in a slightly different direction here.

00:48:43.072 --> 00:48:44.617
Um, the.

00:48:44.617 --> 00:48:50.193
For me, I think part of an exit, part of the exercise, should be as well.

00:48:50.193 --> 00:48:57.753
When we're setting the expectations, is the assessment of the reality of that Not necessarily even like.

00:48:57.753 --> 00:49:00.831
Is this realistic, yes or no it's.

00:49:00.831 --> 00:49:02.802
Is this realistic?

00:49:02.802 --> 00:49:04.309
Let's assume that it is realistic.

00:49:04.309 --> 00:49:06.755
And now what needs to happen?

00:49:06.755 --> 00:49:08.338
What are the checkpoints that need to be?

00:49:08.398 --> 00:49:14.394
hit in order for me to go from where I am to where I want to be and the different direction I'll take.

00:49:14.394 --> 00:49:15.016
This is that.

00:49:15.016 --> 00:49:19.043
So I'm going golf here.

00:49:19.043 --> 00:49:27.664
So this past year I've found that my expectations probably on just a day-to-day basis.

00:49:27.664 --> 00:49:35.994
I think I had a good goal at the end, like from the beginning of the year to the end of the year, but the manner in which I got there, I think, was unrealistic.

00:49:36.054 --> 00:49:39.918
Because I play I'm lucky enough to play with a couple of very good golfers.

00:49:39.918 --> 00:49:44.775
Like my playing partners are close to scratch golfers, which is very good.

00:49:44.775 --> 00:49:57.681
For those who don't know, one thing that has helped me a lot through a lot of just like watching videos and listening, is understanding the statistics of golf.

00:49:57.681 --> 00:50:15.885
So for those that don't know, like golf is a game where metrics and statistics are kept like on every single shot, like it's, it's wild and as an example there's I've got I'm looking at a massive chart here From.

00:50:15.885 --> 00:50:35.942
I'll ask you guys, and maybe you have no context for what this actually is, but from, if you're a PGA Tour player, you're a professional golfer, one of the best golfers in the world from 50 yards, 50 yards away from the hole, how often do you think that player gets the ball on the green?

00:50:35.942 --> 00:50:46.208
Ball on the green from 50 yards away the ball anywhere on the putting surface.

00:50:46.208 --> 00:50:47.971
What percentage of shots get on the putting surface?

00:50:47.990 --> 00:50:51.257
from a professional golfer 40% 90% 88%.

00:50:51.898 --> 00:50:54.047
So 88% of them are on the green.

00:50:54.047 --> 00:51:06.838
Only 37% of them are within nine feet of the hole, so almost 60% of them over half of them are 12 feet away or further.

00:51:06.998 --> 00:51:10.014
So my point that's what I was thinking when I'm watching like half of them.

00:51:10.014 --> 00:51:11.490
That's not a makeable putt.

00:51:11.490 --> 00:51:12.768
That's kind of where my brain went a little bit.

00:51:12.807 --> 00:51:14.413
Yeah, no, so this isn't and that's not a putt.

00:51:14.413 --> 00:51:14.914
That's like a.

00:51:14.914 --> 00:51:15.675
This is a chip.

00:51:15.675 --> 00:51:21.208
This is like a chip from off the green.

00:51:21.228 --> 00:51:22.936
So, and that's a common, that's a common thing for an amateur golfer.

00:51:22.936 --> 00:51:24.543
Oh no, no, I meant it's not makeable once they get it on.

00:51:24.563 --> 00:51:42.992
Oh yeah, yeah, exactly, so like yeah, so the the odds that they're putting even something from 50 yards away, within three feet of the hole, is less than 10 percent, like um, and so that the reason I use that distance, that's that's a somewhat common that might be a common shot that an amateur golfer has to hit.

00:51:42.992 --> 00:51:51.336
And the expectation is that I'm so close to the fucking hole, like if I don't hit the green, like what the fuck am I doing?

00:51:51.336 --> 00:52:01.387
And it's like, well, actually, like only eight and a half out of 10 professional golfers hit the green, so one and a half out of every 10 of them miss the green, just like you.

00:52:01.387 --> 00:52:16.371
And if you happen to hit it onto the green, like the fact that you are anywhere within, say, 25 feet of the hole means that you're like in a category with 75% of the best golfers on the planet, and that sort of like.

00:52:16.371 --> 00:52:21.947
Again, the big picture point here is that like and that sort of like.

00:52:21.947 --> 00:52:39.688
Again, the big picture point here is that, like, if your expectations are so lofty and it turns out that they're not even realistic, for the best of the best, you're trying to obtain a level that is even better than the best of the best, just simply because you don't know like you're going to find yourself super frustrated with your progress, with your performance whatever it's like if I don't.

00:52:40.371 --> 00:52:42.903
And in CrossFit, with your performance, whatever it's like if I don't.

00:52:42.903 --> 00:52:46.786
And in CrossFit it's the same thing.

00:52:46.786 --> 00:52:49.072
It's like if I don't have a certain strength, a certain level of strength.

00:52:49.072 --> 00:52:51.416
It doesn't matter what the other metrics are.

00:52:51.416 --> 00:53:16.911
We need to focus on getting you five pounds heavier, five pounds stronger, five pounds stronger incrementally in order to get there, rather than assuming that you are either going to just naturally perform at that level to begin with or that it's going to be easy to get you from the place you currently are, through all of the kind of steps that it takes to get to that final goal, that final expectation that you've set for yourself.

00:53:17.126 --> 00:53:22.047
And like the goal come full circle Like for me, that's that's that's freeing in a lot of the goal come full circle like for me, that's that's that's freeing.

00:53:22.047 --> 00:53:30.331
In a lot of ways too, it's like, wow, yeah, I turns out like if I hit the green from 100 and from 150 yards away.

00:53:30.331 --> 00:53:36.487
Like like only 75 of pga tour players hit the green from 100, 150 yards away.

00:53:36.487 --> 00:53:38.291
Like if I hit the green, I'm in the fucking.

00:53:38.773 --> 00:53:50.034
I'm the fucking shit you know, it's like yeah, if I miss the green, it's like, oh wow, like so do a whole shitload of other professional golfers, and that's fine and that tempers your expectations.

00:53:50.034 --> 00:53:53.608
That allows you to say like, okay, like I'm gonna move on to the next shot.

00:53:53.608 --> 00:53:57.335
Or okay, like, yep, I added five pounds to my snatch this phase.

00:53:57.335 --> 00:53:59.248
Great, let's add five more pounds.

00:53:59.248 --> 00:54:00.793
The next training phase.

00:54:00.793 --> 00:54:14.144
And it's that incremental kind of progress combined with expectation management of reality that's gonna kind of free you in a way that you know it's like hey, this is not gonna happen tomorrow or the next week or the next month.

00:54:14.144 --> 00:54:24.958
This is an iterative process that requires correct expectations or just an understanding of what, like this is where you want to go.

00:54:24.958 --> 00:54:27.474
Okay, man, here are the steps that it's going to take to get there.

00:54:27.474 --> 00:54:28.989
Are you willing to do those things?

00:54:29.733 --> 00:54:30.646
Yeah, and that's so.

00:54:30.646 --> 00:54:38.454
I'm glad that you went in that direction, because only certain parts of what you said are even allowed in this exercise.

00:54:39.007 --> 00:54:58.813
You getting onto the green is not allowed in this exercise right Because of all of the factors that could come into play, like you deciding what the fucking weather is, the condition of the course, whatever the fuck the expectations that you talked about is, I'm going to buy into that iterative process.

00:54:58.813 --> 00:55:12.018
I have an expectation that I know that the most likely way that I'm going to get onto the green more and more is I'm going to practice X amount of times a week when I'm not actually on the course.

00:55:12.018 --> 00:55:18.411
That is the expectation that I believe needs to be set in this instance.

00:55:18.411 --> 00:55:19.554
We can't.

00:55:19.554 --> 00:55:23.400
There's so many things outside of our control.

00:55:23.400 --> 00:55:25.271
We're not going to get to decide the programming.

00:55:25.271 --> 00:55:28.105
We're not going to get to decide who we're competing against.

00:55:28.105 --> 00:55:34.206
We're not going to get to decide all of these factors that would change your ride up and down the leaderboard.

00:55:34.206 --> 00:55:42.385
You get to decide the way that you attack your day-to-day, what you want to hold yourself to and you're also going to.

00:55:42.487 --> 00:55:50.106
Step two is incredibly important here, because these people are driving themselves into the fucking ground right.

00:55:50.106 --> 00:56:06.871
There are going to be days where CNS is tanked like multiple muscle groups are torched, like anything negative happens, and you're ready to fucking throw them up like get the hands up, see what's good.

00:56:06.871 --> 00:56:09.217
That's why.

00:56:09.217 --> 00:56:12.628
So step two is define your bubble.

00:56:12.628 --> 00:56:20.300
We talked about a little bit about these, like what social groups used to be versus how we view them now.

00:56:20.300 --> 00:56:32.179
Identify who will be around you to witness your attitudes, your actions, et cetera, so who could actually view this, and that's everybody, absolutely everybody.

00:56:32.179 --> 00:56:40.699
Then whittle that down to the people that you trust who have your best interests at heart but will also hold you accountable.

00:56:40.699 --> 00:56:48.313
So we have Every single person who would actually like know what you're doing on a day to day basis.

00:56:48.313 --> 00:57:00.690
Then we have Narrow that down to who has our best interests at heart and bless them All of them but half or more Will not call you on your bullshit.

00:57:00.690 --> 00:57:02.034
They really will not.

00:57:02.034 --> 00:57:12.750
So that accountability piece is an extra layer and that gets us down to this tiny little bubble of people who see how we act.

00:57:12.750 --> 00:57:16.938
We've told them what our expectations and actions are supposed to be.

00:57:16.938 --> 00:57:30.731
They really do want to see you succeed, but they will be like hey, that interaction that just took place out on the gym floor like go apologize or go butter up that person.

00:57:30.773 --> 00:57:31.733
Do X, Y and Z.

00:57:31.733 --> 00:57:39.670
You've been training really hard but you're like trending towards injury because I haven't seen you do a couch stretch in six fucking months.

00:57:39.670 --> 00:57:52.735
There's so many iterations of what these things could be, but that bubble, defining it and then letting them know what you're trying to hold yourself to is so incredibly important.

00:57:52.735 --> 00:58:02.385
Like we there's I'm glad that there is this huge uptick in media related to competitive crossfit.

00:58:02.385 --> 00:58:05.789
It's good for the sport, it's good for the athletes.

00:58:05.789 --> 00:58:25.333
But, joe schmo, like you, hearing someone say something about you that doesn't know you and doesn't know anything about your life or the way that you train or what your attitude is, and they're the like judge, jury, executioner is just crazy.

00:58:25.333 --> 00:58:26.476
It's madness.

00:58:26.476 --> 00:58:27.746
Who the fuck is that person?

00:58:27.746 --> 00:58:29.195
You don't even know who that person is.

00:58:29.195 --> 00:58:30.262
You don't know if they're smart.

00:58:30.262 --> 00:58:31.628
You don't know if they're a fucking moron.

00:58:31.889 --> 00:58:36.820
You don't know if they're just saying things to get Might, not even know if they're fucking real.

00:58:42.005 --> 00:58:42.226
Seriously.

00:58:42.226 --> 00:58:44.173
But like you, like they might just clickbait right like they're doing their job.

00:58:44.173 --> 00:58:44.554
They're just.

00:58:44.554 --> 00:58:45.498
You know they decided before the show.

00:58:45.498 --> 00:58:47.505
Like you watch the sports, you know the things on tv.

00:58:47.505 --> 00:59:02.909
Like if there's two sides to an argument and the both people agree, off camera they're going to decide who disagrees and then jump into it and start arguing over it and that's going to get you views, that's going to sell products from sponsors, all of that stuff.

00:59:02.909 --> 00:59:27.858
So I think, honestly, the basis of where this all started was at least a dozen athletes have said to me that competing is so hard because their inner circle spends thousands of dollars to travel to wherever they're competing and they don't want to let them down.

00:59:28.639 --> 00:59:36.777
That is such a common one such a massive thing and it honestly makes me smile in the moment because it's like why?

00:59:36.818 --> 00:59:38.009
do you think we're here.

00:59:38.009 --> 00:59:50.351
I'm dude if you're fucking fantastic at crossfit, but you're a dickhead and like you don't fit into the crew and like this isn't working well, I'm spending 75 cents.

00:59:50.351 --> 01:00:12.244
I'm not fucking meeting you at the coffee shop down the street like, yeah, we, the people, are here because of who you actually are as a person and maybe the expectations that they have from a realistic social contract to go all the way back to the beginning, like they're there to support you because they believe in you and you like inspire them and motivate them and all of that.

01:00:12.244 --> 01:00:16.851
That can't change with one weekend and if it does, they gotta go.

01:00:16.851 --> 01:00:19.985
Like fuck off, like we.

01:00:19.985 --> 01:00:35.293
How many times have we seen over the years the like coach from X programming camp is like surrounding the athlete that's like got a little bit of buzz because the cameras are there, and then they're in 19th on day two they gone.

01:00:36.175 --> 01:00:37.126
They're not there and we.

01:00:37.126 --> 01:00:38.210
We talked about that.

01:00:38.210 --> 01:00:42.833
I don't know if we talked about it internally or or on a podcast, but the number of like.

01:00:42.833 --> 01:00:48.715
You see it in every major competition, like day two, day three roll around when the leaderboard's shaking out to be nobody back.

01:00:48.755 --> 01:00:49.889
Finally, is it's like?

01:00:50.230 --> 01:00:51.396
where the fuck are all the coaches.

01:00:51.396 --> 01:01:01.670
Like all the athletes are back here still warming up, but like coaches, it's like, ah well, yep, we're, we're in the place that we're in and like, all right, I'll catch you after the event, like don't forget to cool down.

01:01:01.670 --> 01:01:04.594
And yeah, it's insane, it's amazing.

01:01:04.764 --> 01:01:12.233
Johnny worked his ass off 29th fittest person on the entire planet, but 29th doesn't have that good of a ring to it.

01:01:12.233 --> 01:01:14.869
So make sure he like does his.

01:01:14.869 --> 01:01:20.739
You know band exercises and warm up like shedding a tear because everyone has disappeared.

01:01:20.739 --> 01:01:25.452
Like that's another part of of this ecosystem.

01:01:25.452 --> 01:01:26.855
It's not the same exercise.

01:01:26.855 --> 01:01:36.349
But like if you've been through that and you feel that way about the people that are in your corner, like make sure your coach's pass goes to the right human being.

01:01:36.349 --> 01:01:38.012
Like that's huge.

01:01:39.193 --> 01:02:09.175
So again, like the entire impetus of having these types of conversations is watching the all of these human beings do this impossible thing, this impeccable job of holding themselves to this like crazy standard and not even realizing that like that's the thing they do, such a good job of it, but it's not exactly what they've curated from this fake thing somewhere else.

01:02:09.175 --> 01:02:14.567
Um, and like those are the kind of people that you want to help.

01:02:14.567 --> 01:02:17.391
You want to, like set the record straight a little bit.

01:02:17.391 --> 01:02:26.742
And also, how long is your body going to cooperate with double sessions year round?

01:02:26.742 --> 01:02:58.994
Like blink in your 35, 40, 45, 50, however old you are, when you stop having this be your main thing, your main thing, and would you have rather worked on yourself as a human or been like so, and so looks pretty cool on my phone when I'm in bed at night, and I tried to be them for a decade and it didn't work, and now I gotta start over yeah, it's also probably not that great.

01:03:00.235 --> 01:03:02.940
No, no, no, no, no, probably not.

01:03:02.940 --> 01:03:05.769
And if it is great, it's probably not their life.

01:03:05.769 --> 01:03:07.713
Yeah, fair.

01:03:08.175 --> 01:03:09.699
But I think it's interesting.

01:03:09.699 --> 01:03:36.985
Obviously, you guys have the perspective of, you know, being professional coaches at such an elite level and I can draw that parallel to I had a conversation with a fellow media guy and comparison is a thief of all joy, right, and he he was talking about like, hey, man, like I'm doing the same things that are trending and like, but my stuff's not getting anything, and like that instant validation that he's seeking, or perhaps a CrossFit athlete seeking.

01:03:36.985 --> 01:03:40.070
You know they're posting a PR on their snaps or whatever.

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And it's like sometimes you just got to slow down and be like.

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It is just Instagram, like your worth as a human being has nothing to do with how many likes you got today, because tomorrow you might post the same video and it probably can pop off, and if it doesn't, it doesn't, and I think it's like for such a successful person to like be worried about that.

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It's just drawing the same conclusion that you guys mentioned.

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It's just like we live in the state that now, like our self-worth or at least most people comes from a place of like complete strangers give us their self-worth instead of that immediate group who's going to check you and tell you like, hey, man, man, like that's not the way the sauce is made, and just take a chill pill well, and what an incredible metaphor, too, you're talking about art right now, like I think my nature versus nurture.

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My nature is art and my nurture was like fucking clang and bang.

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You know, lift some weights.

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You know lift some weights.

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You know play sports, et cetera.

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You're talking about an artist, a true artist, trying to duplicate what someone else is doing.

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For no, that's, that just doesn't, that doesn't fit right.

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Like that doesn't line up with probably what made them passionate about this thing in the first place.

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I this unique perspective, I have this like certain style of the way that I do things.

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I bring some of me to the table here and like, especially with art, like once it's out into the world, other people can do whatever the fuck they want with it.

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They love it, they hate it, they're interested by it.

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They never want to see it again.

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Like that's a bit of a complicated thing, but I think it's a like, such a great metaphor, like you were trying to, like you're an artist and you were just trying to see if you could trace the outlines of someone else's thing and then you're wondering why you weren't fulfilled.

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Like kind of stacks up, doesn't it?

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jim hunter, final thoughts, putting you right on the fucking spot yeah, that's all right.

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I was expecting that.

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Uh, expectations uh there it is.

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Um, yeah, I, I like the takeaway, the.

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I think my main point in this podcast was that when you're setting those expectations for yourself, like once you do that I would do that without audit.

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I would say, like, what is what is like the BHAG, the big, hairy, audacious goal that you have?

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Like, don't, don't sell yourself short.

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Let's just say it's, I'm going to, I want to qualify for the CrossFit games.

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You're a beginner, you're in, you're in, you just finished up beginners class and you love watching all the competitive crossfit videos.

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And you're like, yep, I want to qualify for the crossfit games.

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The next and most important step is to either like yourself or, more likely, find either those friends within that close bubble or you know a coach and define, like, what are the steps that are required to get there, what is to go from where I'm at to where I want to be, how many steps might there be?

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And like, what are the things that are required?

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And then, like once you've kind of laid those things out, that's when I think you need to reassess your expectation and say, like, is this actually realistic?

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Is this something that, like, I have the time, the resources, the energy, the actual legitimate interest to put the level of work in that's required.

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Because, again, what you see on Instagram, if that's a 15 second clip, that is 15 out of the 84,000 seconds in the day that somebody else posted on Instagram for the sake of attention, essentially right, it's for the sense of validation and attention and that's fine.

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I'm not putting that down.

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But the point is is that, like, you need to be within, kind of identify within your own bubble, within within your own set of expectations, how I need to go, what I need to do in order to go from A to B, and then how realistic is it that I can actually get there?

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And then, maybe that requires adjustment of the expectations.

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And when I think, when your expectations and reality are more in alignment and there's actually an, there's an actionable plan that is executable, that's feasible to do.

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It's not necessarily easy, but it's feasible that's when you you're kind of in the zone as far as like, yeah, okay, I have a plan, I think this can work.

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I know it's going to be difficult, I need to make sacrifices here, here and there, but like, if I do, that, this expectation that I've set for myself now could become a reality within you know, whatever timeframe that you, you and your coach or whoever you know, established.

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So, with those expectations, you have to make sure that there, there, there's a, there's a plan that is attached to that, and that plan is realistic and executable.

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And then from there it's like hey, man, good for you, get after it.

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Yeah, I think, I think it could be interesting to do somewhere down the road, an episode about goal setting and how it would work within this kind of system, because, for me, when an athlete is dealing with these kinds of thoughts and the comparison and all of that, I really want to narrow in on who they want to be as a human being.

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What standards are they setting for themselves?

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And there can be plenty of again.

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There can be plenty of it related to training.

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Like I am, I am going to do X, y and Z, but if we're always just stuck on the number, the lift number for that day, the, the, you know the average output on the machine, your score compared to another person's score, and not asking yourself did I give this what I agreed to give it?

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Did I warm up the way that I was supposed to?

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Am I taking care of my body?

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Am I drinking enough water?

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Am I eating?

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Am I weighing and measuring my food?

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Am I again scrolling through Instagram to find out who I'm supposed to act like tomorrow at 11 pm, or am I actually fucking in bed, sleeping, like setting those expectations of who you want to be as a person, what actions it would take to actually be that person, and then defining your bubble, and I want to double down on the bubble to finish, just because you are going to fuck up 100.

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This is all the way back to the perfectionism thing.

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Like you like, if it's the expectation, can't be, I'm going to be perfect, because no one's perfect right, like talked about, like congrats, so you're perfect.

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That's cool.

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That's like, how's that working out for you?

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That that's amazing, congratulations.

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Um, so, realizing that you're going to fuck up like I don't know if that that could be step three, it's like set the expectations and actions, define your bubble fuck up and refine like that kind of thing, right?

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Um, if we can get to a place where we are holding ourselves accountable for those things, then so many of the things that you wanted will become possible.

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But if we're all over the place all the time emotionally and donating the level of of stress that we should be giving to our training to like, oh my God, like I don't have x endurance tablets, I'm fucked like you know what I mean like just stuff like that, it's like that's going to be a problem the bubble is important too, because that that grounds you in my mind, if you don't if you don't put that goal out there and not just like in your diary, on paper, but like actually communicate it to somebody that you trust or a group of people that you trust.

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That's now out there.

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Human beings are inherently bad at holding themselves accountable when especially when the goal is like held internally, it's like you can.

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You're going to bargain with yourself all day about how you adjust that thing, but when you put it out there and you tell somebody what it is, you have that bubble All of a sudden that gives it life and a reality that you can actually build to.

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And it could be a further audit of whether it's realistic or not.

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For sure yeah.

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Like why don't you dare to say this to X person?

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That either is an audit on should they be in your bubble or is it realistic.

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So if you're unwilling to vocalize it, that can be a problem.

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Seb, you got any final thoughts for us?

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Hey, you guys said everything, but I would also say, like, stay committed, right, like once you find that inner voice of like, you look deep within and, hey, I truly believe that this is what I want to pursue.

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I'm being realistic with the expectations that I'm setting down.

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I have a small community that's going to hold me accountable.

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You've got to be able to stay committed to that, because then you're going to be like those people that pick a new hobby every other week and never achieve anything.

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Yeah, this is a lifestyle, not mental masturbation kind of a situation.

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I listened to this podcast.

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I'm going to write up a few things down on a piece of paper and then next week I'm going to find a new podcast and a new piece of paper and a new like X, y and Z.

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So that's a very good point.

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All right, can we do it?

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Can we do that?

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